Figuring Out Relationships

October 15, 2018

Benefits of Having an Older Friend

You will learn that my best friend was about to get her first automobile when I was still a toddler. This is because she is fifteen years older than me. It took us almost thirty years before we finally met. She has however become a part of my life.

You will learn that Janie and I met at a time when our daughters were to be picked from preschool. You will learn that she is one such person that values bringing gifts to teachers whenever an opportunity presents itself. You would often find her with an athletic gear. She would then be seen headed towards walking on the track after bidding her child goodbye. She put on leggings like any other young mom and had a blissful look too. However, there was something different about Janie. You would easily learn that she was older than most of us even though she had a daughter whose age was like those of our children. There was a particular day that she requested that I join her on this track. My son was with my parents for a number of hours. I therefore easily accepted this particular invitation. It is here that we discovered that we shared so many common things. This ensured that we immediately connect.

Three years have gone by and our friendship has become even more formidable. Janie only got her daughter when she celebrated her 45th birthday after having an adventurous marriage. You will learn that they had a cabin which they co-owned with her husband where they would retreat each weekend. When they learnt that they were expecting, they chose to build a bigger house on this property. They also had to start acting more like adults. Their bundle of joy came to the world the next August. You will learn that our children are great friends too. Their daughter was however diagnosed with an unusual chromosomal defect. This is to mean that she will undergo development delays all through her life. Together we chose to discover more about this condition that same evening after which we felt more gratified.

I am just returning from a beach trip with her. While it is true that she’d aged, she still had that child-like delight as well as enthusiasm. We are actually polar opposites in a number of ways. You will however note that an older friend will often act as your confidant, mentor as well as a trailblazer all at the same time. Based on the fact that she is conversant with how to figure things out, she can hardly judge anyone.